Past miseries can significantly impact your life more than you think, so it is important how you handle them and let go of the past.
Anything dreadful that happened in your life, such as being betrayed by a friend or partner, a tragic incident, an incorrect decision you made or any such occurrence can change and influence the way you look at life.
When you keep thinking about the past again and again, it becomes a vicious circle where you think about your past and get sad. This is called Rumination. Once you get stuck in the rumination cycle, it gets harder to break out of it and this could lead to any severe personality or mental disorder.
It is essential to take what happened to you and be ready to face the future with the experience you gained from it.
You can go through these 15 tips and find which suits you the best to let go of the past
Talk about it:
Talking to your friends, or your family can help you reduce your stress level, which makes you feel better about the situation.
When you share your feelings with someone, you can understand the situation from a different point of view which will help you to handle the pain and regrets.
Take a trip:
It is considered a travel only when you learn life from it, else it is just spending time in a different place. I am a firm believer that each journey will impart wisdom and it changes you for good.
Travel to a place where you always wanted or to a place where you can be one with nature. Break your routine and understand life.
I have personally experienced that after a travel I always find myself doing better with my life and so will you.
Meditation gives you clarity and improves your focus levels. When you practice meditation, you become more mindful about your life, which helps you to let go of things that hold you back.
When you understand that maintaining the peace within you is your priority, you will have a different perspective and handle the situation in a better way.
Make new friends:
Spending time with people who know very little about your past gives you an advantage to only speak and spend time on things that involve mutual interest.
When you make new friends, you have less time to think or grieve about your past. As days go by, it becomes an habit not to think much about the bad experiences as you built a new routine.
Read a book:
Find a self-help book and start reading it. This is one of the best things you will want to do to overcome your past anxieties and let them go. Reading a good book can broaden your way of thinking and increase the level of acceptance in yourself.
Talk to yourself:
I am not crazy and so are you. Find a quiet place, take a few deep breaths and think about the wretched past you want to let go off. You will know why you are holding on to it for so long. Take your advice on what to do and how to overcome it.
Do you know why I asked you to talk to yourself?
Your subconscious mind already knows what you can do to let go of your past.Listen to it. Even if it’s a bit tough to follow initially, it will end in the right way.
Move your body:
Engaging in exercise or any other kind of physical activity like Dancing, Zumba, Martial arts can have a significant impact on your mental and physical health.
Performing physical workouts secrets chemicals like endorphins, serotonin, dopamine, etc. which acts as an antidepressant and boost your mental health.
When you feel better about yourself, you can handle complicated situations better and undoubtedly let go of the past.
While still holding on to the past, you might miss and lose valuable things that matters. Start to practice self-care to mind your thoughts and health.
You are already hurt and stuck in the past. As days go by, you will understand that your wellness is vital and only things you regret is the chances you missed.
Take small measures daily to improvise your overall physical and mental health by doing things you like and develop a habit of self-care.
Cry it out:
You can cry out your miseries to your friends, or you might feel like crying when you are alone. It does help sometimes, you will feel a bit relieved once you pour your emotions out.
You might not feel comfortable talking about it to others. Instead, you want to stay alone for a while and that is ok. But if you ever feel like breaking down, never hesitate or resist yourself from doing it.
You don’t need other people’s apology to move on:
If you are the type of person who believes that you can let go of the past only if others realize their mistake.
“Listen to me, Most of the time it’s not going to happen and sometimes it doesn’t matter.”
You must be firm about the fact that other people’s decisions have nothing to do with moving on with your life. It is you who is stopping you from letting go of the past.
Sometimes people don’t realize or refuse to accept their mistakes. Forgive them even if they don’t apologize and move on.
Try to fix your mistake:
Sometimes, the pain and suffering you hold on to can be due to your ignorance or external circumstances. Even if there is a tiny possibility that you can make up to the mistake you made.
Do it without any hesitation. You may not be able to change what happened, but you can be satisfied that you tried your best.
Accept and take action:
No matter how hard you try, there are few things you can never change or re-create. Accept the reality that as humans, we make mistakes even in some serious and critical situations.
The only thing you are capable of controlling is your emotions and how you feel about yourself. Don’t get sunk into your past because of any tragic events.
Kill those provoking habits and circumstances:
When you step into the vicious cycle of thinking or worrying about your past happenings, observe your surroundings and the thoughts that provoke you to relive the past.
Is it the place, a conversation, a person, or you start to think about the past when you are alone?
Identify the factor that triggers you to drown in your past. Once you find it you can try to eliminate them and avoid getting into the vicious cycle again.
Seek Professional Help:
If you think you are trying to let go of the past but struggling to make any progress, consider taking professional help.
When you start to notice that you are ruminating over your past, consider consulting a psychiatrist and seek their advice.
Although most people can handle and let go of their past. As days go by, there are some cases where people find it really challenging to overcome them.
Consulting a psychiatrist doesn’t make you a retarded or a mentally weak person.
We consult a doctor for sickness and cold, which is common, but we complicate things when it comes to mental health.
Practice Gratitude :
Be thankful for what you have now and appreciate your life in its way. You might be missing out a gem mourning over losing a copper.
Once you start to value the present life, you will stop dwelling over the past. Be happy with the money, people, and things you have with you right now.
You already know that things can get pretty messed up and you might even lose another important thing or possession of your life.
You will continue to gain and lose things throughout your life. So value and be grateful for what you with you now.
The world has two types of people: They who still live as a victim of their past and another who used to be a victim of their past but learned to handle their feelings later on in their life.
You are already well aware that everyone is unique. Every happening in your past can trigger a pleasant or miserable experience in your personal life, professional life, and mental health.
Every decision you make in your life is one way or other connected to the incidents that occurred in your past. So it is crucial how you handle your emotions and feelings toward your past encounters.
If all decisions in your life are driven only by the emotions and fear of the bad reality that happened in your past, you fail to appreciate life and probably miss the meaning of your life.
Letting go of the past doesn’t mean you forget about it completely, it is having a mindset to stop the bad experiences from influencing you to live your life peacefully.
So it is really important how you handle your feelings and let go of the past.